Another year is about to start and I guess you have all made your beautiful lists of resolutions you’ll (let’s not lie) throw away a few days after New Year’s Eve because, like most people, you’ll lose faith & hope before you can only achieve the very first goal you had set. Well this year, instead of setting yourself up to fail with a list of resolutions, I suggest you take a moment questioning yourself and wondering what would make 2014 a year you’ll truly and genuinely enjoy.
But first, I would like you to do something… Close your eyes and think about who and what you’ve seen and experienced each day, each week, and each month in the past year. Think about all the people who have moved you, touched your heart and reached your soul. Think about all the things that have brought a smile to your face and given you faith again. Think about them and be thankful! Be thankful like you’ve never been before!
Your life isn’t perfect and will never be, no one’s life’s perfect, but listen… it is this lot of imperfections and flaws that make your life perfect. Life is a love story. And a love story is only perfect with its imperfections, so your life can only be perfect with its coming-and-going flaws. Just learn to love your life and learn to love yourself like you’d learn to love your lover, with their lot of imperfections and weaknesses.
For this New Year, my friends, I of course wish you the very best but I also hope you’ll find some rocks on your paths, but not any kind of rocks; I’m talking about the ones that will make you grow up, the ones that’ll make you change for the better. I call them the shiny rocks and I hope you’ll find some of them on your path.
I also wish you to dream, to dream big. Be a dreamer. Be an outcast. Be different and believe in your own beliefs. Make your dreams come true. Do want them very bad. Do want them to become reality very very bad and as T.S. Eliot once wrote, “Sometimes things become possible if we want them bad enough”. Don’t waste your time wondering if this or that can work, because the realistic answer is very likely to be NO. Just do it. Make it happen. Because you know what?! Those people living lives that inspire you, they didn’t waste their time wondering, they just did. They have also been knocked down a thousand times, just like you, but they got up again. They believed in their dreams, they tried again, they fought and they made it happen! They deeply believed their goals and wishes were worth it. They faced the omnipresent normative society, their relatives and even their own self, but they held on to their goals and dreams.
I wish you to believe in your goals like those people do and I wish you to change and change your life a little bit more every day, for change is such a frightening but wonderful process. Try to get out of your routine, even though you’re still in it. Find something. Find yourself. And find your dreams. Believe in them strongly, because if you don’t, you won’t be able to summon the minute-by-minute energy and determination necessary to make them reality. The people mocking who never believed their own goals were worth it, they made their choice, now you make yours!
Finally, I simply wish you to live. Whatever you might do this year, whether it’s learning a new language, moving to another country (and I’m particularly thinking of the 1st-year ESTRI students, who are about to take the plunge and start their six-month experience in an English-speaking country – Ooh how exciting!) or falling in love, JUST COMMIT. Recognise the people who can change your life and L.I.V.E. Give your all and make the most of everything.
I have had a fantastic 2013. I changed a lot, I found myself, I met amazing people and I found a part of me within their soul. I’m full of dreams and hopes that I have already started to bring to ‘the real part of the world’, but above all, I learnt what the word HOME meant. I found a home in England but most of all, I found a home in the people I met on my way… I remember every word they’ve ever said to me and everything they made me feel. I remember leaving France and living like a foreigner for a while but then getting used to my new life and to this foreign culture (which is almost mine too now ^^), I remember learning a new part of the English language everyday, I remember learning from everyone and wandering past all borders into private and secret places where I wish I could have stayed forever. And… I remember YOU. I remember finding a matching soul, I remember slowly becoming a citizen of YOU. (If YOU read this now, “you would say it’s too soon to feel this way”, as Lisa Kleypas once wrote, “You would ask how I could be so certain. But some things can’t be measured by time. Ask me an hour from now. Ask me a month from now. A year, ten years, a lifetime. The way I love YOU will outlast every calendar, clock, and every toll of every bell that will ever be cast”.)
I remember all those beautifully flawed things and I’m wishing you all to live and then remember such amazing flawed moments too, for they’ll make you the person you’ll be at this stage of the year in 2014. A beautiful and grown up person, I’m sure.
“There’s no point having wishes if you don’t at least try to do them” ― Sally Nicholls, Ways to Live Forever
With this, I’m leaving you with my wonderful souvenirs of the past year, I’m leaving you with my best of 2013 (simply click on the link below if you want to access the video or right-click on it and you can use QuickTimePlayer to read it/// There’s also the same video underneath (the YouTube one) but with a different soundtrack; so you can obviously watch it… but please note that the original version is the one you’ll get to see by clicking on the yellowy link)! Enjoy and have a very happy and enchanting 2014!
Love always ♥
The Best of 2013 (© Audio by Lily Allen)